Comments on: Understanding Expectation and Avoiding Being Results Oriented

By: Joshua

Joshua — Sun, 28 Nov 2010 21:12:18 +0000

Thanks Julie! I’m glad you can relate to the post It’s great to hear that your mindset is more balanced this year.

By: Julie

Julie — Sat, 27 Nov 2010 23:12:07 +0000

If only had read this last semester, I probably would not have endured the melt down that I did, and possibly had the courage to return to being the student that I usually am. Yep, I was the results-oriented student to the extreme, and it affected everything. I have gone away from that mentality…slightly so far this year, however, you have illustrated to me how unhealthy that was, and now I definitely am going to for the long-run vs. the short-term.

All your posts are very inspiring and enriching. Thanks : ) !

By: Joshua

Joshua — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 21:24:32 +0000

Hey Paloma,

I'm glad you found the encouragement helpful You just got to remember that these are only two tests in a life time of tests… and even if you are still upset, that's normal, we all feel like that for a while.

Good luck studying!

By: Paloma

Paloma — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 14:51:53 +0000

thanks josh. ur encouragement really helped after i wanted to cry for getting a 60 and 62 on my two midterms..economics and calculus. i feel like a failure. im gonna have no life for the next 2 weeks except study.

By: Joshua

Joshua — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 11:01:48 +0000

Hey Francine,

I guess it sounds like I've overcome those problems, but honestly, it's still something I'm working on. I still get upset over a lower than expected mark, but I have yet to meet any student become completely immune to those feelings. For me, I might go through a day or so of being upset, and then I just try to forget it.

You just have to realize that taking tests is like anything else in your life. For whatever reason, it just doesn't go your way sometimes, and the results are not necessarily reflective of your true abilities.

I'm not saying that it's never your fault. It's quite possible you didn't study enough or got too overconfident. It's important that you are realistic when re-evaluating why you didn't do as well as you could have.

I'm sometimes irrational about stuff like this myself. There have definitely been tests where I've done bad on, and have gotten upset, but I knew deep down I just didn't prepare well enough. I think more so than the bad mark, it hurt that I knew I could have done better, but my laziness kept me back.

By: Francine

Francine — Sun, 25 Jan 2009 21:21:14 +0000

Hello Joshua,

As I read the description of a results oriented individual, I couldn't help but notice how much it resembles my own personality. I am so accustomed to receiving good marks, that my world shatters whenever that pattern is broken. One of my objectives this year is to manage my perfectionist tendencies to a reasonable level. How did you overcome those occasional mishaps that you encountered in your academic career?

Anyways, thank you for writing another helpful and encouraging article.

By: Joshua

Joshua — Fri, 23 Jan 2009 00:32:55 +0000

Hi Judy,

Really glad you enjoyed it! =)

Absolutely, realizing that it's a journey and that you gotta think long term will take you a loonnggg way.

Good luck! =)

By: Judy

Judy — Thu, 22 Jan 2009 20:57:39 +0000

Hey Joshua,

I haven't commented in a while, but after reading this article, I just had to leave a note saying how well-written it is (well all your articles are well-written, but still). I think it's especially important for people like myself who are in the middle of exams, university and scholarship applications, etc. that while results are important, it's the long-term process which is more important. I just found out that I did horribly on a calculus test, but I'm determined to change that on the exam.

Thanks for the encouragement and keep writing!